It is 9:37 am and your daughter is dead. You don’t know that yet, though, not at this
point, but in years to come, you will obsess about the time, obsess about what
you were doing at 9:37 am, obsess about where you were, where she was, the wild
chasm between your experiences at that moment, and it will feel as though you
should have known, should have acted, should have been able to act. You will feel as though you could have
stopped it.
But you couldn’t have.
There is nothing you could have done because the reality –
the unchangeable reality – is that sometime earlier that morning, a man walked
into her school with two guns. To the
media, the type of the guns will matter; they will say something about the man
who shot and killed your daughter. For a
moment, you may think it matters. You
may think it matters why he did what he did, what happened in his life that
made him go into her school with two guns.
But it doesn’t, and it never really will. All that will ever really matter is that he
walked into the school with two guns, walked into her classroom and opened
fire. All that will ever matter to you
ever again is that he shot and killed your daughter.
You, of course, were not with her at that moment. You were in a meeting, discussing project
budget forecasts or headcounts or something else that is, ultimately, comparatively,
inconsequential. You might have seen a
text message come in from a number you didn’t recognize and turned your phone
face down in that meeting, not realizing that it was the mass-text-alert from
the school advising parents that the school was on lock-down. You will check your email and messages to try
to piece together the timeline, figure out what slide you were on in the
presentation at that very moment. Did a
news alert pop up on your screen, only for you to quickly close it, embarrassed
that it interrupted your presentation – the presentation that you worked for
days to put together? Did you ignore the
message that you could have saved her?
You will ask yourself these questions over and over and over
again. You will assume everyone else is
asking them as well.
You will imagine what it must have been like for her, that moment
before she was shot, before she was killed.
You will see it in your dreams, and when you close your eyes during the
day. You will hear her screams even
though you never really heard them, and don’t even really know if she did
scream. Your body will convulse as hers
must have when you hear the gun shot in your head. You will weep with your closest friends as
you wonder aloud whether she saw him as he prepared to shoot her. Did she have any idea what was going on as
the gun was aimed at her? Did she
look him in the eye and give him a coy smile, like she would do when the
neighbor boy would trail his toy gun on her from his yard? Or maybe he shot her in the back. Maybe the fucking coward shot your baby in
the back, giving her no chance to plead for her life, no chance to run, no
chance to escape. Maybe he couldn’t
stand to look her in the eye as he murdered her. You will eventually find this out, whether he
shot her in the face, in the chest, in the stomach, in the back, but at that
moment, at 9:37 am, you have no idea.
You ignorantly believe she is in her music class like she is every other
Friday, learning songs about cows or sheep or whatever children her age learn
songs about. You believe she is
safe. And you are wrong.
You will pore over these details in the minutes, hours,
days, weeks, months and even years to come.
You will lose control of your voice as you tell the story, when you dare
to tell the story: there you were, in your meeting or getting your coffee,
while the news was just beginning to trickle out that a gunman had entered her
school. You missed the news initially –
the end of the quarter was coming up, you know, so you had things you needed to do, important work that others were counting on you to deliver. She was in music class... She so loved her music
class, so at least at that moment, you knew she was happy. He went into her classroom, drew his gun and began
firing. You could have done something, if
only you’d been there, if only she had been in gym class instead, if only you
had seen the message from the school. You
could have left earlier; you could have gotten to the staging area where the children
were evacuated sooner; you could have found out your daughter was dead a whole
hour before you actually did. An
hour. A whole hour. That single hour will ultimately define your
life, will make you question whether you could have prevented it from happening,
will make you wonder whether she was taken by this madman because you couldn’t
get there more quickly.
You will cry yourself to sleep at night because, if only you
had listened to her when she said she wanted to stay home from school that day,
she would be alive. Or if you had
surprised her with breakfast at McDonald’s, she would be alive. She loved McDonald’s – even the ones without
the Play Places. Maybe you didn’t really
need to be at that meeting, or you could have called in from home. If you’d stayed home that day, maybe she
would have gone into school late or just taken a day at home on the sofa
watching movies, and she would be alive.
If only. If only. If only.
If only that man had not walked into her school with two
guns and opened fire on the children.
If only.
But that is not what happened.
Instead, it is 9:37 am and your daughter is dead.
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